Is Your Spouse Cheating? The Tell Tale Signs of Adultery & Infidelity - Gain Peace of Mind Today
If you're looking for signs of adultery, you probably already have reason to suspect that your spouse is cheating. Maybe he's suddenly started working late at work; maybe she's suddenly a lot more (or less) interested in sex; or maybe you just have a 'feeling' that all is not well. Dealing with adultery is an extremely complicated process, involving a lot of intense and complex emotions. If you need help dealing with adultery, check out the Save My Marriage Today ebook by Amy Waterman. However, if you're still looking for signs of adultery, keep these alerts in mind:
Sudden changes in work schedule may indicate a cheating husband or wife.
If your spouse's work schedule changes suddenly, but your spouse isn't promoted and the company isn't undergoing some kind of restructuring, it might be a sign of a cheating husband or wife. Cheating spouses use work as the number one excuse to free time up for adultery. Typically, the innocent spouse isn't involved with the cheating spouse's work schedule, and so has no way to verify that the changes in work schedule aren't legitimate. If your spouse is suddenly working long hours and weekends but you're not seeing extra money on the pay check or in the bank account, your spouse may not be working at all.
Try calling work to see if your spouse answers. If you don't have any trouble reaching your spouse at work, he or she probably isn't cheating. However, if you have a recurring pattern of being unable to reach your spouse on late work nights, it may be a sign of adultery. If your spouse begins 'going out of town' for work conferences, try calling the spouse's co-worker and ask for details of the trip. Try to keep it light, like: "Jim gave me his itinerary so I could reach him, but I've misplaced it. Can you tell me what hotel he's staying at again?" It may be a clear adultery sign if none of the co-workers know about the conference.
Infidelity signs almost always involve missing money or unexplained gifts.
When your spouse is committing adultery, chances are good that he or she is giving or receiving gifts. Be especially alert for unexplained gift-giving around the holidays, Valentine's Day or your spouse's birthday. If an expensive gift shows up out of the blue and your spouse doesn't have a good explanation for it, it might be a sign of infidelity. Other common adultery signs include unexplained cash withdrawals, charge receipts for gifts you didn't receive and hidden or secret bank accounts and credit cards.
If you suspect adultery, be alert for these unexplained financial gaps. If your spouse is withdrawing cash at unusual times or from unusual ATM locations, he or she might be buying dinner, flowers or a hotel room for a date with someone else. Check pockets, wallet and account statements for missing money or unexplained receipts. Also be alert to your spouse's financial habits; if a private credit card or bank account suddenly shows up when your spouse has been public with finances throughout your marriage, it may be a sign of adultery.
Emotional distance and changes in intimate activities may be signs of adultery.
When your spouse is cheating, he or she will probably feel guilty. Guilt often causes withdrawal, or a sudden influx of affection. If your spouse is unusually cold or buys you unexpected gifts, you may be looking more adultery signs. Emotional distance is one of the biggest signs of adultery, as your spouse tries to cope with guilt and also begins to feel more emotionally attached to the object of his infidelity.
Additionally, if you have a fairly active sex life and your spouse is suddenly no longer interested in sex, you could be dealing with another infidelity sign. On the other hand, your cheating spouse may be more interested in sex than usual, or more sexually experimental than normal, if they're committing adultery. In many cases, adultery whets the sexual appetite and makes things in both relationships more exciting. In other cases, your spouse may want to try out new techniques and positions to impress a lover. These are some of the most disturbing adultery signs, as you are confronted with the unpleasant thoughts of your spouse doing these things with another person. If you suspect that a change in sexual activity indicates adultery, talk about it with your spouse immediately. You don't have to accuse your spouse of adultery, but instead talk about why the sexual activity has changed. If your spouse can't come up with a good explanation or seems angry and unwilling to discuss it, this is almost certainly a sign of adultery.
If you notice signs of adultery, you have to decide how to deal with it.
Dealing with adultery is a complicated issue. Successfully dealing with adultery requires good conflict resolution, communication skills and making an effort to rebuild trust in your marriage. If you want to save your marriage and recover from adultery, the acclaimed ebook by author Amy Waterman 'Save My Marriage Today' contains all the information you need to successfully work through the issues.